February 26, 2011
Quote for the Week
~ To
get through the hardest journey we need take only one step at a
time, but we must keep on stepping ~ Chinese Proverb
February 22, 2011
Pondering: Personal quests with self refections
A quest, can be defined as, a long and arduous search for something.
Each of us is on a quest, possibly even many quests.
Is it really possible to be fully present and an active participant in your own life, and not be searching for something? Sometimes, the something we search for seems to be more of an internal quest and other times the quest appears to be more external.
Externally, our quests can involve a developing relationship, a new job, career change, a new home, having a baby or maybe even getting a new dog. External quests can be plans or paths that lead us to make more money, learn a new hobby, skill, or possibly to further our education. In all of these quests we are called upon to make external action steps to create a change for ourselves. More than likely, we believe by doing so, our lives will be better, richer, and we will be happier. Sometimes that happens and sometimes we are surprised when we may take those action steps, but we don't feel better or happier.
With each external quest, we need to change internally as well. We may to need to commit to being fully present in that new relationship. Or, if we move to a new home, we need to process our internal emotions of happiness and excitement about the move, but also experience our fear and sadness that is mixed in with saying goodbye to the old. When we welcome a new child into this world, we are challenged with totally redefining who we are. Someway, somehow, we need to lessen our own narcissism, because the world now revolves around an 6-9 pound infant, who relies on us for everything! Even if we develop a new hobby, we need to make some adjustments in what we believe about ourselves so that we make time for ourselves to engage in this new activity, that we enjoy. We may need to work on that internal self talk and say, "Yes I am worth it, and I deserve to take the afternoon to..." play golf, create some pottery, or knit myself a scarf.
All of the things we want changed on the outside, also really require major changes on the inside. Our internal beliefs, thoughts, and feelings maybe challenged, changed or conflicted through this process. Each new change, is all part of our own quest, our own personal journey, as we live our lives. Each new change brings another growth experience. We get an opportunity to learn about who we are, who and what is important, and how well we are taking care of ourselves. Each change offers a time for self reflection, a time to stop and ask ourselves if this is how we want to live our life. The only requirement is, that you actually need to slow down enough and choose to take the time to look inside and self reflect. Internal self reflection is a gift, you can give yourself. It does mean that you need to be willing to be in touch with how you feel, and be present within yourself. Sounds easy right??? It maybe more challenging than you think.
Have you given this gift to yourself lately? If not, I encourage you to try it. You deserve to take some moments to self reflect.
You really are worth it.
Each of us is on a quest, possibly even many quests.
Is it really possible to be fully present and an active participant in your own life, and not be searching for something? Sometimes, the something we search for seems to be more of an internal quest and other times the quest appears to be more external.
Externally, our quests can involve a developing relationship, a new job, career change, a new home, having a baby or maybe even getting a new dog. External quests can be plans or paths that lead us to make more money, learn a new hobby, skill, or possibly to further our education. In all of these quests we are called upon to make external action steps to create a change for ourselves. More than likely, we believe by doing so, our lives will be better, richer, and we will be happier. Sometimes that happens and sometimes we are surprised when we may take those action steps, but we don't feel better or happier.
With each external quest, we need to change internally as well. We may to need to commit to being fully present in that new relationship. Or, if we move to a new home, we need to process our internal emotions of happiness and excitement about the move, but also experience our fear and sadness that is mixed in with saying goodbye to the old. When we welcome a new child into this world, we are challenged with totally redefining who we are. Someway, somehow, we need to lessen our own narcissism, because the world now revolves around an 6-9 pound infant, who relies on us for everything! Even if we develop a new hobby, we need to make some adjustments in what we believe about ourselves so that we make time for ourselves to engage in this new activity, that we enjoy. We may need to work on that internal self talk and say, "Yes I am worth it, and I deserve to take the afternoon to..." play golf, create some pottery, or knit myself a scarf.
All of the things we want changed on the outside, also really require major changes on the inside. Our internal beliefs, thoughts, and feelings maybe challenged, changed or conflicted through this process. Each new change, is all part of our own quest, our own personal journey, as we live our lives. Each new change brings another growth experience. We get an opportunity to learn about who we are, who and what is important, and how well we are taking care of ourselves. Each change offers a time for self reflection, a time to stop and ask ourselves if this is how we want to live our life. The only requirement is, that you actually need to slow down enough and choose to take the time to look inside and self reflect. Internal self reflection is a gift, you can give yourself. It does mean that you need to be willing to be in touch with how you feel, and be present within yourself. Sounds easy right??? It maybe more challenging than you think.
Have you given this gift to yourself lately? If not, I encourage you to try it. You deserve to take some moments to self reflect.
You really are worth it.
February 19, 2011
Quote for the Week
~ To
be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you
something else, is the greatest accomplishment. ~ Ralph
Waldo Emerson
February 12, 2011
February 8, 2011
A truth: Life is difficult.
"Life is difficult," is the first sentence of M. Scott Peck's classic, The Road Less Traveled. It is a truth, life is difficult and sometimes it is extremely difficult. A truth that is so simple, complex, confronting, and yet, at times it is problematic for us to accept. We want it not to be so. At times we want our lives to be easier, less challenging, calmer, and different. Some other truths we know are:
Life is full of joy and full of pain.
Life is full of love and indifference.
Life is full of beauty and of wreckage.
Life is full of blessings and of losses.
As we live our lives, we strive for something different...something different than what we left behind. Many of us have an inner need to heal from something. That something may be physical, emotional, or both. Many need to heal from an injury, illness, or disease. Others need to heal from a loss or death, while others may need to heal from experiences of neglect, violence, and/or abuse. All of these difficult experiences can cause us trauma. Sometimes we may not feel that we can heal from whatever we have experienced. Maybe we think that no matter what we do, things won't change for the better. When we feel deep physical and/or emotional pain those thoughts feel, so true. We may have moments or days when we believe that our pain will never end or that it can't possibly get better. That is usually when we feel the most overwhelmed, alone, confused and afraid.
Struggling through those feelings is something that you do not need to do alone. There are people who understand and can help you work through whatever is causing you your discomfort. That is what therapy can offer you. A caring and supportive relationship with a therapist can be a place where you can explore all of those questions, thoughts, struggles, feelings, and emotions that you have about all of your life's challenges. Sometimes when we feel the most alone, it is the exact time that we need to reach out and ask for help. We owe it to ourselves. It can be a chance to create something different in your future.
Yes, life is difficult, but healing is available to you...for the taking. Be one of those people who takes the Roadless Traveled, so in your future, you can fully experience the beauty and the blessings around you.
You are undeniably worth it.
Life is full of joy and full of pain.
Life is full of love and indifference.
Life is full of beauty and of wreckage.
Life is full of blessings and of losses.
As we live our lives, we strive for something different...something different than what we left behind. Many of us have an inner need to heal from something. That something may be physical, emotional, or both. Many need to heal from an injury, illness, or disease. Others need to heal from a loss or death, while others may need to heal from experiences of neglect, violence, and/or abuse. All of these difficult experiences can cause us trauma. Sometimes we may not feel that we can heal from whatever we have experienced. Maybe we think that no matter what we do, things won't change for the better. When we feel deep physical and/or emotional pain those thoughts feel, so true. We may have moments or days when we believe that our pain will never end or that it can't possibly get better. That is usually when we feel the most overwhelmed, alone, confused and afraid.
Struggling through those feelings is something that you do not need to do alone. There are people who understand and can help you work through whatever is causing you your discomfort. That is what therapy can offer you. A caring and supportive relationship with a therapist can be a place where you can explore all of those questions, thoughts, struggles, feelings, and emotions that you have about all of your life's challenges. Sometimes when we feel the most alone, it is the exact time that we need to reach out and ask for help. We owe it to ourselves. It can be a chance to create something different in your future.
Yes, life is difficult, but healing is available to you...for the taking. Be one of those people who takes the Roadless Traveled, so in your future, you can fully experience the beauty and the blessings around you.
You are undeniably worth it.
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